Thanks, friend. You’re a really nice and open-minded guy. I hope you’re doing well too. :)

Since you’re so thirsty for attention, I’ll give you one. It’s funny how you quickly jumped into the story because it gives you another reason to spew your nonsense. Gurl, we all know your crazy ass so you can’t fool us. You’re the one who accuses everyone of being “fake gays”. And I’ve seen you attack even the legit gay models here because you’d rather believe everyone in gay porn is straight so you can feel sorry for yourself. Me and @gaypornfanuk may not agree all the time but he was never problematic from what I can remember. I already said my piece about Zander and I agreed with him that what he did was wrong. Yet here you are spinning our whole conversation to support your own narrative. You tried it, clown. LOL!

To be fair it kind of does. It exposes these homophobic pieces of trash who make money off the gay community but treat us with absolute contempt. If anything I’m glad his homophobic ass got exposed. And honestly I’ve seen people being ‘excommunicated’ by the LGBT community for much, much less. I find it shocking that for some people saying that you respect someone but don’t wanna have sex with them because of their gender / genitals cause more uproar and disgust than someone being blatantly and unapologetically homophobic.

I’m a 40 year old man who has been completely gay my whole adult life. I’ve been the victim of homophobia numerous times, including from my own family. As anyone can imagine, it doesn’t feel good. I’ve had to more-or-less disassociate with numerous relatives in the last few months largely because of their intolerance, including my racist, homophobic sister. I’m not pleased the “rhymes with maggot” word was used. I also, however, strongly feel the other side of the story needs to be mentioned.

1. Zander is attracted to men. He said that in his recent video with Jesse, so that makes him either gay or bisexual. Do I believe he is intolerant of his own kind? No I don’t. It doesn’t make sense. Maybe he used the word out of a moment of anger after being stalked online. It happens. It would be a lot easier for me to believe he is homophobic if he is entirely straight, but that obviously isn’t the case here.

2. The poster who asserted that Zander is a homophobe (whose screen name is JayceeReid), was very evasive about the whole matter. Numerous questions were asked of him, such as “Why would you want more pictures of Zander when they are already plentily available on the internet” and he couldn’t answer those questions. This same poster had a long history of taking pictures from models socials and plastering them all over that forum in his “now and then” series. Lots of models have social accounts under their porn name and get many follows from fans. That’s normal. What’s not normal is to find a model’s REAL name, find their PRIVATE account and then send a request, which Jaycee did. That’s stalking, period. I see people like gaypornfanuk are trying to justify the behavior, but there’s not justification for it. It’s flat-out cyberstalking. Period.

3. How would Zander know what sexual orientation JayceeReid is, considering he’s never met him and doesn’t know him?

I’m trying real hard not to sound douchey or angry, but I have a real problem that this poster is basically saying “Never mind that I stalked the model, pay attention to his reaction to being stalked.” Well, nobody is going to react kindly to being stalked. I fully understand there is a subset of posters who live to get worked up and outraged by all of the models shortcomings, but you can’t count me amongst that group of people. This might sound crazy to some, but I try not to judge people I don’t know.

Still not a crime, contrary to spewing homophobic slurs. Annoying, needy, perhaps, but hardly anything that justifies being a victim of hate speech. And these porn performers are actors, like they always point out in their endless rants about how they can have gay sex and still be totally straight, so I’m sorry to break it down to you honey but as an ‘actor’ having your social persona being public domain is part of the job.

Not to mention criminal, at least here in the UK homophobic slurs are considered hate crime. Requesting to follow someone on social media is not a crime in any way or in any country.

Sending a request to follow someone is hardly stalking. I follow many people I don’t know, that’s the whole concept of this kind of social media. And even if ‘Zander’ felt he was being stalked, he could just ignore or block the person – there’s no need for homophobic slur and no excuse for such behavior.

Trust me, now this asshole is facing a much worse fate than “stalking” by f-ts on Instagram. I will personally make sure that all his personal data will be published and it will be on the first page in Google’s results and every employer will be able to get acquainted with the porn history of this idiot. I think they don’t even realize how easy it is to break a quiet life. He will have to earn money whole life by publishing his pathetic hole on his pathetic onlyfans.

Oh but we do know who’s a homophobe. Problem is they continue to get work in the gay Industry and continue to be supported by some gay fans, which never ceases to baffle me.

I’m all for exposing these homophobes. They can all go to hell where they belong. But what’s sad is that you’ll never really know who’s a homophobe and who’s not. I get what you’re saying about straight men, but reality is that gay models get stalked all the time too. And unless a gay model is open about his porn work, I don’t see him being happy to be stalked.

It doesn’t have to be a crime for it to be wrong. Just ’cause Zander is wrong doesn’t mean stalking models on social media is right. And just ’cause everyone’s doing it these days doesn’t mean it’s right. We can all call out Zander’s homophobic behavior without turning a blind eye on the fact that stalking has become a norm for most porn consumers, which is never right in the first place. These guys being “actors” is not an excuse to seek their private socials. With all the stigma surrounding porn work, these models are essentially living in the closet so whatever privacy they have left should be left alone.

Don’t get me wrong here. Zander is homophobic and he should be held responsible for that. I’m not justifying what he did because I am just as angry as you. I’m just saying all this stalking porn consumers do needs to stop. It doesn’t do us any favor by doing so.

I agree with this. No one’s tolerating anybody here, just so people know.

I agree that there are better ways to handle the situation. There’s no excusing Zander’s action here and what he did is VERY wrong. Regardless what the other guy did, he didn’t deserve to get called the F word. However, I disagree about the stalking part. Following a model’s personal SM account still counts as stalking. It’s not like these models are social media celebrities or something for people to easily find their accounts. I’ve seen different boards before and I’ve been here long enough to know how we as porn consumers behave. So let’s be very real, people follow these models’ private socials not because they randomly stumbled upon their accounts and thought the guy was hot. They deliberately did their research to know more about these porn models and that in itself is stalking. People are just so used to doing it that they no longer see anything wrong with it. But at the end of the day, it is still stalking. Funny ’cause I was just having a conversation with someone here a couple weeks ago about seeing a board with all these people gossiping and talking about models’ private lives and socials. Personally, it’s not for me so I just deleted my history and swore I’d never go back to that place.

Not to mention criminal, at least here in the UK homophobic slurs are considered hate crime. Requesting to follow someone on social media is not a crime in any way or in any country.

That’s disappointing. No one deserves to be called the F word. I don’t know the whole story, but this is why people need to stay away from models’ social media account. All that stalking isn’t going to do anybody a favor.

Ah, now I’ve found the post. Bost side sucks here.

Here it is. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/227b061342b1e4e6a94b42e7025ef4d0f5f360749bf1f363dea89bdae04d1dcf.jpg