I know all those words were English, but what did that sentence mean?

You can use wordplay all you want , it all means the same thing to anyone that comprehends the English Language.

I live in Southeast Asia and I have to deal with all kinds of problems here too. But from one foreigner to another, I am telling you… what you’re saying is problematic as hell. Doesn’t matter whether it’s micro or macro aggression. At the end of the day, that is still a problem. Also, It’s never okay to make fun of other people’s struggles just ’cause you feel yours is a lot worse. And just ’cause black people’s problems do not affect you directly doesn’t mean it’s okay to belittle their struggles. Remember, in the eyes of a racist bigot, you and I are just the same as the next black person. A little bit of understanding and empathy on other people’s plight won’t hurt you, you know.

We are the same age.

I am under no delusion that my life as a highly educated, financially secure, white gay US citizen is one of privilege. I can only imagine what life is like for you, but I’ve found it non-useful to compare struggles between marginalized groups.

Black gay men in the US deserve the same opportunities that I do. You deserve the same opportunities that I have. We all deserve the same privilege that a straight white man in America has.

It’s interesting that you address the struggles of gay men abroad. I spoke with a colleague just last week who is gay from a muslim country. He has been in the US for three years now and clearly has far more opportunities than in his homeland. That said, he says his greatest challenge in America, is dating. That Americans, most specifically white men, discriminate against him when it comes to dating saying things like “I’m not attracted to non-white men”.

For a man who moved across the world for the freedom to date and fall in love with men, when it is actualized; he’s found that the majority of men in this country still marginalize him and make him feel like a non-equal.

So I understand your place to scoff at discrimination in the dating world of the US, as it is not one of life or death, but it is a real problem.

The fact that you want to dismiss miscoragressions just because it has the term “micro” is really laughable. It happens not to be a term I use, but I know that it refers to meaningful actions.

And the fact that I am aware of when someone is being targeted doesn’t mean that I assume that this person (or group) is always being victimized. It isn’t all or nothing.

Real world… The military, school, prison, church or mosque, neighborhood bar, one’s family : all of these are real worlds. There isn’t a fake world. There are multiple real worlds.

Which, of course, will all be wasted on you and your co-signer Andrew. But hey…

I still await the positive contribution your comments make.

Right now, all I am seeing is illiteracy matched by pomposity.

I just think you guys enjoy playing victims so much you have to invent oppression where it doesn’t exist. You are weak, sheltered and self indulgent, I hope for your sake you never get to leave your tiny safe bubble where “micro aggressions” are considered a hardship.

In the rest of the (real) world, we have real actual “macro” aggressions to deal with, nothing micro.

I’m late 30’s and I live in the middle east, Micro aggressions are the
least of my worries, Islam rules the land here, homosexuality is banned. That’s why I laugh when i hear young westerners complaining about micro aggressions, I mean seriously, get a grip.

Look, I am certain they don’t see the flag as a symbol of racism, but they are not the people for whom the flag is a matter at stake. For black people, it is an issue. And using a single non-white person as a counterpoint is not good practice. It’s called tokenism. I work with Indigenous People in Canada (the Canadian civil rights challenge), but don’t take for granted that one Indigenous person is the sum total of Indigenous thinking, politics, and goals. All this to say, I’m not really sold on saying ‘a symbol lots of people fear is not that big an issue because one person of colour was cool with it.’

Which generation am I?

I’ll skip making any and all assumptions like you did and just ask you, how old are you?

Regardless of either of those two data points, just because there were bigger fish to fry and larger cattle to tend to in prior “generations”, doesn’t mean we don’t all need to go back and sweep up whatever mess is still left out there…and micro-aggressions is one of the things still left out there.

The bigger issue that my comment is targeting is the idea that one has made and come to their own decisions about who they think they are attracted to. When those decisions were made for them by society who slapped white men on every magazine cover and at the top of every box office movie, calling them heartthrobs. While pretending that people of color were second thoughts and minor supporting characters in media.

But I’ll take your note, labeling me a snowflake, and I’ll add it to the pile of I don’t care that you think it’s humorous for me to call out an issue, because it wasn’t as tragic as another.

Oh. Those are some hot takes. I’m not defending dumb opinions. I’m going to plead well intended ignorance, by yeah, hard no on that. Also, Mean Girls is iconic and I’ll have none of that here, and none of that hating people who care about equity.

My original point was pretty good. Looking up why black and brown people dislike the Confederate flag, or which is preferred terminology, can’t hurt. It can only serve to help you grow and love things more. Like I now love Nina Simone and Miles Davis infinitely more that I have a context for their work.

Again, it isn’t important that he doesn’t consider the tattoo racist or about Southern Pride. A critical mass of black, Latinx, and other non-white people take issue with it.
Also, context is everything. He’s non-white. He can use symbols that are oppressive, like lesbians reaapropriating the word ‘dyke’ or people taking ‘queer’ back. Doesn’t mean I, a white person, can claim ownership of symbols that are not about me.

Again, it isn’t important that he doesn’t consider the tattoo racist or about Southern Pride. A critical mass of black, Latinx, and other non-white people take issue with it.
Also, context is everything. He’s non-white. He can use symbols that are oppressive, like lesbians reaapropriating the word ‘dyke’ or people taking ‘queer’ back. Doesn’t mean I, a white person, can claim ownership of symbols that are not about me.

Exactly. That’s like saying “Well some house slaves were fine with their position, so that must mean all slaves felt the same way.” A person of color can’t be self-hating enough to adopt supremacist symbols? Cameron Diggs would beg to differ.

If the only way you can think of to show your pride for where you live, is to utilize a symbol you know is steeped in a hundred plus years of negativity, violence, bloodshed and bigotry, you need to find another way. Your southern state doesn’t have an official bird or wildlife animal? Plant? You can’t simply get a tat of your state’s name? Give me a fucking break. People who get that tat know what they’re doing. People like Andrew who make excuses for that tat also know what they’re doing.

Oh you didn’t know? Dru Shill loves to be a stanning apologist for anyone he thinks is hot, regardless of how much of a scumbag they are. Case in point: https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/54c76902af65d7b330436361ff69c7d92528dc1d2e317baf2f937ccfb7681985.png
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It was the Kellan scene that had me thinking about Kingston lol. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/2dbbab8621a0464a2fdcd2685220c5891cf87b2a8e788f9d3e355d47b2b35be9.gif

I kinda hate that you brought up Beau being gone now…gone but not forgotten lol. Kellan needs to come back in front of the camera.